Life is full of losses. This loss has hit me hard. Not sure why.
Much was written about yesterdays memorial for two of my most beloved stars. Included is a link to a song, written especially for them by family friend James Blunt, “I’m Here to Let You Go.” A Beautiful tribute song that brings me healing and hope.
Another Todd Fisher interview by ET’s Nancy O’Dell this week is also shared below. Todd and Billie are both fine examples of the legacy these two women power houses left behind. If you haven’t watched Todd’s HBO documentary, “Bright Lights,” do. As a fan, this gave me an inside glimpse of their private lives. It also made me a huge fan of Todd. His love of his mom and sister spills over onto us all.
May you find comfort in the wonderful words expressed here.
Next up, Star Wars episode eight. May the force be with you!
12:30 PM PDT 3/25/2017 by Ashley Lee
Todd Fisher began the event with his own remarks. “There were no finer people that I had ever known than my mother and my sister,” he said, adding that neither Fisher nor Reynolds ever turned away a fan. He also noted that Fisher’s writing room and Reynolds’ living room will be preserved in a museum “so you can see where they held court,” and recommended HBO’s Bright Lights documentary as “an amazing legacy piece, in their own words, seeing them in their natural habitat. You get to experience what I’ve had to deal with my entire life — in a good way!”
Todd also recalled Reynolds’ last day, during which she told him she wanted to be buried with Carrie. “She looked at me to ask for permission to leave, said she wanted to be with Carrie, closed her eyes and went to sleep,” he shared. “It was a very peaceful exit that only my mother could’ve orchestrated. She was trained in Hollywood where they teach you to make a great entrance and exit. … A beautiful exit.”
An original song called “I’m Here to Let You Go” by family friend James Blunt debuted over a final photo montage, as well as footage of Reynolds last performance, which was with Fisher and her daughter Billie Lourd, their “pride and joy,” said Todd.
Fisher’s former beau Dan Aykroyd took the podium to recall their friendship. “I once saved her life, applying the Heimlich maneuver to dislodge a brussel sprout, and if I had been with our beloved showboat, I might have been able to save her again,” he said. “I know these women will have a song for us when we arrive at the crossing. After all, we’re only seconds behind.”
The show also included performances by the Gay Men’s Chorus of Los Angeles (highlighting Star Wars‘ Princess Leia as an icon), tap numbers highlighting the Debbie Reynolds Dance Studios and a color guard tribute for Reynolds’ humanitarian work for veterans. Costumes and memorabilia were on display throughout the venue, which accommodated guest overflow in the lobby and outside. Immediately after the service, fans were invited to pay tribute at Fisher and Reynolds’ final resting place.
Todd Fisher is opening up about the tragic loss of two of his beloved family members, mom Debbie Reynolds and sister Carrie Fisher, who died just one day apart in December 2016.
While speaking with ET’s Nancy O’Dell on Wednesday, the 59-year-old producer revealed that nearly three months later, he’s still feeling “a little disoriented,” but “doing fine.”
“I think it’s important that you grieve and feel it,” he said. “No matter if you’re famous or not, I think having an event and having movies and pictures and feeling that is a good thing. It’s part of the process of grieving.”
“There’s a freeing sense to all of that,” he continued. “At the same time, it’s obviously a huge loss and they were my girls.”
Todd reflected on the heartbreaking moment when Carrie died after going into cardiac arrest on a plane at the age of 60. He told ET that his mother actually asked him for “permission” to “go” just a few hours after Carrie’s death.
“My mother said to me the night that Carrie died … we were talking that night and I didn’t know what was happening, but she was setting me up for her leaving the planet,” he remembered. “And she really just said to me, ‘You know, I know that was really hard on you losing your sister.’ [And I said], ‘I mean, Carrie was there holding my hand when I took my first steps. I have film of that and it will be in the memorial.’ And when I was editing that, it ripped my heart out. But my mother said, ‘I know that’s tough. It might be tougher even, you know… I don’t know for sure when I [will] go.'”
“I was like, ‘Well, look, fortunately we don’t have to face that right now, you know, we just face this,'” he continued. “But then she was like asking my permission [to go]. I [said], ‘You’re going to be OK, everything is under control.’ And she starts running me back through her estate, which we had done many times. [She’s like], ‘You’re going to take my dog and, you know, all these little instructions.’ And [she] even [went through] last-minute changes due to the fact that Carrie left first, as far as the memorial service.”
“I thought that we were just going through these events just like one would go back through an estate,” Todd added. “But instead the next morning, we had a little further dialogue and she chose to leave the planet in front of my face two feet away. If you had told me this story and I wasn’t there, I would have a very hard time believing what I saw. But she literally looked at me and said, ‘I want to go be with Carrie’ and closed her eyes and went to sleep.”
According to Todd, Debbie made it clear in her estate that she didn’t “want a big deal” of a service, and asked that she be cremated when the time came. But the night before she died as a result of a stroke, the former Singin’ In the Rain star, 84, “changed the whole game.”
“She no longer wanted to be cremated, she wanted to be buried with Carrie,” he explained. “Now she wanted the tomb idea that I had brought up long ago and got sunk. ‘No, I don’t want a big tomb, I don’t want to draw any attention to myself,’ [she said], but now with Carrie gone she said, ‘OK.’ So we bought this great tomb over at Forest Lawn [cemetery]. She changed her mind that night.”
Todd said the doctors have an actual “fancy, medical term” for situations like this, but he can’t make up what he witnessed that night while talking with his mom.
“I’m telling you what it looked like,” he said. “It looked like she asked permission to leave, told me she was going to leave, told me she loves me, closed her eyes and went to sleep.”
“That’s kind of a magical, beautiful thing,” he added. “As much as it’s also hard, it’s what she wanted.”
Todd said that following Debbie’s death, he saw a lot of stories in which he was misquoted for saying that his mother had died from a broken heart.
“I did not actually say that,” he confirmed. “The news said she died of a broken heart. I actually contradicted it. I said, ‘No, that is not true. She didn’t die of a broken heart, she went to be with Carrie. She said those words to me.'”
Todd further broke down that last conversation he had with his mother, telling ET he remembered “her little forehead was crinkled,” something she would do “when she was worried.”
“I said, ‘What’s up?'” he recalled. “She said, ‘You know I really love Carrie.’ And I said, ‘Of course, I understand that.’ She said, ‘I don’t mean I do not love you.’ I said, ‘You don’t need to say that, I get it! You know, you love in different degrees. You don’t need to say that.'”
“And she said, ‘I really want to be with her,'” he continued. “Those are all the words that were spoken and she closed her eyes. So, she did what she wanted to do. That wasn’t like a person that was sitting there saying, ‘My heart is broken.’ It was not some scene from Macbeth. She truly just understood what happened.”
“It wasn’t a mystery to her,” he added. “In fact, I’m the one that was crying when I came back from the hospital, not her. She was like, ‘Well, you know, I hope that it had gone a different way, but now that it’s gone a different way, I’ll go be with her.'”
Later in our interview, Todd told ET that to this day, he’s “really OK” with “Debbie’s exit,” but “not so OK” with Carrie’s.
“Carrie was in the middle of what was, I thought, her finest hours,” he explained. “Her creativity was peaking, the Star Wars thing was obviously back in spades. Everything that she was doing was turning to gold.”